Many people are unsure of letting out themselves because they are insecure about how they look and always seem to take the likeness of celebrities to catch attention. Don’t be afraid to be yourself. Remember that you came to an online dating site to meet people who would be genuinely interested in you, your status, and how you look. Avoid posting provocative photos, tagging yourself with younger age, false civil status, wrong location, and avoid putting on a show you can’t act out. You wouldn’t want to build a profile with false information as this will backfire in the long run. An excellent photo with a well-written pattern usually does the trick in keeping things real in online dating.
* Practice Privacy
Remember that you are yet to get to know people you encounter and with this in mind, always protect yourself and any sensitive information about you. Do not divulge personal information to someone you just met. Light conversations and small talks eventually turn into interesting topics once you and the other person start to build trust based on consistency and mutual understanding.
* Be Polite
Being considerate of people’s culture, feelings, and values form respect. Having a sense of etiquette and having manners are also a good way to earn friends. Avoid chatting with phone text typo, use correct punctuation, and grammar. However, while being all polite is nice, it can also bring an image of a safe and boring person. Try not to overdo it and know when to pull the trigger. Ask questions that won’t come off as if you’re trying to imply or judge someone. While you’re working to keep the conversation intriguing enough to make the person curious about you, incorporate well-thought questions and some common interests that are usually a turn on.
* Subtly Be A Hard-to-Get
Once you have found someone consistent, remember that sometimes a bit of mystery keeps the balance in a blossoming online relationship. This way, you can test if the other party’s interested in you. Try not to give everything the person wants.
That concludes some online dating tips. We wish you the best in find romance. Good luck!
Meeting up is probably one of the magics of online dating – convergence outside the virtual world. Let’s face it, while we can sometimes go on the web to find people to chat and flirt with; we’re after real-life relationships.
Going on an actual date isn’t as risk-free as it is online. This part is make-or-break of the potential relationship. Here are some things to remember when going out with your online friend.
1. Go Literally Out
While you may want to get up-close and personal with your date, you may also want to stay safe. Talk in a place where there’s enough crowd and do away with isolated areas. At this stage of your relationship, it’s too early to become highly intimate. Worst comes to worst; you’ll be more secure outside when your date starts going nasty as there are people around.
2. Too Early to Go Home
All right. It happens. You go out with someone, and after a few hours of intimate conversation, you feel your hormones working. While finding your partner is the goal, you may have to think multiple times before giving in. Unless you’re looking for one-night stands, you shouldn’t end up your date on either of your homes or condos. Keep calm.
3. Inform Others
Okay, I won’t go overboard by telling you to inform your friends and family about your date. What you can do instead is to write a note indicating some details – the when, where, what, who. Keep it posted on your fridge’s door. If anything bad happens, God forbid, others will have a lead where to find you.
I didn’t write this feature to scare you and brush the excitement away. Instead, I’m aiming to set your expectations that while we’re looking for love, it’s always best to keep calm and stay safe.
Going offline dating is the real thing. Meeting up with someone you met online can be both challenging and eye-opening. It creates more or less an impression of what your relationship could be like in the long run if there’s any. Being on many black dates in the past have made me realize things about myself and what I look for in a partner. Here’s one of my dating escapades. I came across a guy online who amazed me in so many ways – his photos, built, profession, and wit among other things. Hence, I said yes when he asked me out.
#1 – Money Over Comfort
He was everything he marketed himself to be, except for one thing. While he arrived earlier than expected in our rendezvous, we came in late for our reservations because he doesn’t want to pay for valet parking. He insisted on doing it himself. He was gentleman enough, though to assist me on our way to the restaurant entrance. However, I was slightly disappointed. I silently asked myself, “Can I take someone who can afford to be late and make his partner walk on high heels just because he can’t spare a few dollars?” Strike 1.
#2 – Goes Only With What He Wants
The waiter motioned us to our table, handed out the menu, and asked us for our order. I was waiting for my date to ask me what I wanted. Well, he did. However, he said, “You have great taste in food, baby. But try this one. You’ll love it.” Nothing follows. He ordered what he wanted for us to have, which scared me. I thought I don’t want to end up with someone who will dictate every detail in the relationship. Good thing, I wasn’t allergic. Strike 2.
#3 – Cheap Tips
All right, he had some great taste in food though I figured I would have enjoyed the meal better if I had it my way. We’re done eating when the waiter came in. He paid for our meals, which I thought was nice of him. However, he ended up tipping the waiter $5 for a $85-bill. When he told me, I knew it would be our only date. If he can’t afford to give real tips for great food and service, it’s either he’ll do some reduced spending once we become a couple or he won’t know how to appreciate and give value to things. Strike 3.