3 Things to Women Should Watch Out For During First Dates with Black Men

Going offline dating is the real thing. Meeting up with someone you met online can be both challenging and eye-opening. It creates more or less an impression of what your relationship could be like in the long run if there’s any. Being on many black dates in the past have made me realize things about myself and what I look for in a partner. Here’s one of my dating escapades. I came across a guy online who amazed me in so many ways – his photos, built, profession, and wit among other things. Hence, I said yes when he asked me out.

#1 – Money Over Comfort


He was everything he marketed himself to be, except for one thing. While he arrived earlier than expected in our rendezvous, we came in late for our reservations because he doesn’t want to pay for valet parking. He insisted on doing it himself. He was gentleman enough, though to assist me on our way to the restaurant entrance. However, I was slightly disappointed. I silently asked myself, “Can I take someone who can afford to be late and make his partner walk on high heels just because he can’t spare a few dollars?” Strike 1.

#2 – Goes Only With What He Wants


The waiter motioned us to our table, handed out the menu, and asked us for our order. I was waiting for my date to ask me what I wanted. Well, he did. However, he said, “You have great taste in food, baby. But try this one. You’ll love it.” Nothing follows. He ordered what he wanted for us to have, which scared me. I thought I don’t want to end up with someone who will dictate every detail in the relationship. Good thing, I wasn’t allergic. Strike 2.

#3 – Cheap Tips


All right, he had some great taste in food though I figured I would have enjoyed the meal better if I had it my way. We’re done eating when the waiter came in. He paid for our meals, which I thought was nice of him. However, he ended up tipping the waiter $5 for a $85-bill. When he told me, I knew it would be our only date. If he can’t afford to give real tips for great food and service, it’s either he’ll do some reduced spending once we become a couple or he won’t know how to appreciate and give value to things. Strike 3.

Some men are better left online, if not alone.