Raising biracial children in the modern world is easier than its ever been

Most parents of biracial children usually wonder how it will be like, raising their children. How do you ensure that your child gets the best of both worlds? How do you make sure that your child is confident about his mixed identity?

To be honest, these are things that really worried me when I and my white husband got pregnant. And my biggest worry was whether my child would fit in with peers of both races.

Now, this was all because of the stories I used to hear growing up. Especially about hoe biracial kids were being treated by others. Some were being told they weren’t black enough. Or weren’t Asian enough. Plus we have heard stories of biracial kids who people went to schools that were predominantly of one race.

Luckily things have really changed today. For several reasons, it has become much easier for interracial couples to raise their mixed children.

Reasons why raising biracial children is easier today!

1. There has been a huge rise in interracial relationships over the years. And because of this, people are becoming more accepting of interracial couples. There are more interracial marriages, hence the number of mixed race babies are being born and raised today. So people don’t really see them as strange as they used to before.

mixed race individuals2. That said, there is a shift of attitudes of millennials as opposed to those of the baby boomer generation. Now, this is largely due to the diversity that exists in schools and universities. So for them, it’s normal that they would be in school with mixed kids.

3. The inclusion of the mixed category in the census has also helped a lot dealing with the identity crisis that most mixed-race individuals used to have. Before, they used to be asked to choose one race. These days at least mixed race is now a thing. So choose a school which embraces diversity.

4. The internet has got a lot of information and tips on how to raise biracial children. So, whenever in doubt you will always find something that will assist you.

In order to succeed, as parents, you need to allow your kids to talk about skin color. Explain to them about their identity and teach them how to embrace both or all cultures of who they are. But most importantly, let them make their own decisions and choices. Let them identify with what’s comfortable for them.…

Finding your soulmate is not everything. Keeping a healthy relationship is

How can one find love and maintain a healthy relationship?

I know quite a number of people who will swear that they have fallen in love more than once. For many people, it always happens a bit too quickly. And within a short period of time, the love fades and the relationship ends.

But was it really love? Did you give the relationship a fighting chance?

Finding love can be easy. However, it’s not important if you cant building and maintaining that love.

Here are a few tips you can implement in order to keep a long-lasting relationship with your soulmate.

1. Maintain open communication

Speak up! If something is bothering you, bring it up in a loving a respectful manner. Speaking is not the only way. You should also be able to listen to what your partner is telling you.

Communication is key. If you maintain honest and safe communication environment, you will be in a better position to understand each other’s needs.

2. Compromise

You will not always agree on everything. Listen to your partner and find healthy ways to solve your problems. Find a fighting style that works for both of you. Yelling will not solve anything,

Look at things you can agree on in the argument and focus on building on that.

3. An interesting relationship is a healthy relationship

couple having sex

People say sex isn’t important in a relationship. I tend to disagree. Make an effort as a couple to make things interesting in the bedroom. Have date nights. Go dancing. Go for weekend getaways. Watch porn together.

 

Intimacy is key. Even if you are too busy, then schedule it! Physical needs as important as the emotional ones.

4. Respect your soulmate.

Understand and respect your partner’s wishes, feelings, and privacy.  When you do, they will also reciprocate. Respect each other’s likes and needs.

Give each other some space to be and grow as an individual. As you do this, set boundaries that work for both of you and what makes the two of you comfortable.

Privacy is important. Don’t go snooping on their phones. Trust each other enough to keep some parts of your relationship private, such as social media passwords.

One of the most important thing in a great relationship is to respect each other’s privacy.

Much as the above is not exhaustive, those are some of the tips that can really assist you in building a lasting and healthy relationship.

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Making interracial relationships work with small qualities

Small things have a profound effect on interracial relationships; the things can be as small as making a cup of coffee or a cup of tea. Couples take time out of their busy schedule to go online search for an interracial date, fix a meeting, start dating and then enter into an interracial relationship. While going in for an interracial relationship couples tend to forget that the love and care they had exhibited while prospecting their date needs to increase. However in many interracial relationships the reverse happens. Couples tend to take each other for granted. Although love is not lost still there are a few glaring shortcomings that will surely tend to give a rocky ride to the couple. A few qualities if developed by both the partners can go a long way in deciding the course of interracial relationships.

 

Attentiveness in interracial relationships

Attentiveness towards your interracial partner even in the time of an argument gives a feeling of worth to the other person. Do not interrupt your partner when he or she is talking about something even if you disagree on it. Listening attentively is one quality you need to develop in your personality if you are not an attentive listener to take your relationship on a logical path.

Concern for each other is important in interracial relationships

Showing concern via soothing words and gestures to the partner who is in distress will surely lead the relationship on a smooth and beautiful path. Being busy with work is Ok however being inconsiderate towards your interracial partner in interracial relationships will spell doom for the relationship. Try and open up your partner when you notice a change in their facial expression or body language showing signs of distress or panic.

Self accountability needs to be a key element in interracial relationships

Self accountability is a key element especially in conflict management in interracial relationships. During an argument the bad guy is dealt with properly however the good guy –the victor wins the battle but looses the war ultimately putting pressure on the already fragile interracial relationship. However if the quality of self accountability is developed in both the partners conflict management becomes easy since both of them will be able to see their shortcomings will work on them and thus lead to a stable interracial relationship.

Developing relationship saving qualities is not tough

Developing a few qualities over a period of time is not a tough task. It is always better to inculcate a few habits and qualities that let the relationship flourish instead of walking to a relationship counselor to have your conflicts and relationship back on track. Have the guts and energy to change your inborn qualities that may be taking a toll on the relationship and manage conflicts amicably. Remember you made a choice while saying a yes to the interracial relationship you are in. This means you are compatible, you are in love, and you stand a chance of walking a long way. Just be ready to help yourself with a few changes in your life.…