Meeting up is probably one of the magics of online dating – convergence outside the virtual world. Let’s face it, while we can sometimes go on the web to find people to chat and flirt with; we’re after real-life relationships.
Going on an actual date isn’t as risk-free as it is online. This part is make-or-break of the potential relationship. Here are some things to remember when going out with your online friend.
1. Go Literally Out
While you may want to get up-close and personal with your date, you may also want to stay safe. Talk in a place where there’s enough crowd and do away with isolated areas. At this stage of your relationship, it’s too early to become highly intimate. Worst comes to worst; you’ll be more secure outside when your date starts going nasty as there are people around.
2. Too Early to Go Home
All right. It happens. You go out with someone, and after a few hours of intimate conversation, you feel your hormones working. While finding your partner is the goal, you may have to think multiple times before giving in. Unless you’re looking for one-night stands, you shouldn’t end up your date on either of your homes or condos. Keep calm.
3. Inform Others
Okay, I won’t go overboard by telling you to inform your friends and family about your date. What you can do instead is to write a note indicating some details – the when, where, what, who. Keep it posted on your fridge’s door. If anything bad happens, God forbid, others will have a lead where to find you.
I didn’t write this feature to scare you and brush the excitement away. Instead, I’m aiming to set your expectations that while we’re looking for love, it’s always best to keep calm and stay safe.
Going offline dating is the real thing. Meeting up with someone you met online can be both challenging and eye-opening. It creates more or less an impression of what your relationship could be like in the long run if there’s any. Being on many black dates in the past have made me realize things about myself and what I look for in a partner. Here’s one of my dating escapades. I came across a guy online who amazed me in so many ways – his photos, built, profession, and wit among other things. Hence, I said yes when he asked me out.
#1 – Money Over Comfort
He was everything he marketed himself to be, except for one thing. While he arrived earlier than expected in our rendezvous, we came in late for our reservations because he doesn’t want to pay for valet parking. He insisted on doing it himself. He was gentleman enough, though to assist me on our way to the restaurant entrance. However, I was slightly disappointed. I silently asked myself, “Can I take someone who can afford to be late and make his partner walk on high heels just because he can’t spare a few dollars?” Strike 1.
#2 – Goes Only With What He Wants
The waiter motioned us to our table, handed out the menu, and asked us for our order. I was waiting for my date to ask me what I wanted. Well, he did. However, he said, “You have great taste in food, baby. But try this one. You’ll love it.” Nothing follows. He ordered what he wanted for us to have, which scared me. I thought I don’t want to end up with someone who will dictate every detail in the relationship. Good thing, I wasn’t allergic. Strike 2.
#3 – Cheap Tips
All right, he had some great taste in food though I figured I would have enjoyed the meal better if I had it my way. We’re done eating when the waiter came in. He paid for our meals, which I thought was nice of him. However, he ended up tipping the waiter $5 for a $85-bill. When he told me, I knew it would be our only date. If he can’t afford to give real tips for great food and service, it’s either he’ll do some reduced spending once we become a couple or he won’t know how to appreciate and give value to things. Strike 3.
Some men are better left online, if not alone.…